How to Have Peace of Mind When Motherhood Feels Overwhelming
Disclaimer: I’m not an expert, just a mom sharing what’s worked for me. These are my own ideas that have been based around experience and the books read that allowed me to find peace of mind when needed. I wish they could help you as well!
Introduction
Being a mom in the U.S. sometimes feels like running on empty, mama. Between doing the never-ending laundry, keeping up with the kids, and making sure everyone is taken care of, it’s no wonder we forget to take care of ourselves. Trust me, it’s not out of reach. In truth, you can achieve a little more peace in your life with a few small tweaks here and there.
Clear the Chaos: Peaceful Mind Through Space Decluttering
| “The first step in crafting the life you want is to get rid of everything you don’t.” – Joshua Becker |
Having clutter doesn’t it make us feel like we’re drowning? When your home is chaotic, so is your brain. The good news? You don’t have to do it all at once. Just take baby steps.Check out my guide on How to Organize a Deep Pantry for simple hacks to make your pantry work for you—not against you.
What you can do
- Do 10 minutes of decluttering in one spot a day, like your kitchen counter or kids play area.
- Get rid of things you don’t need anymore.
- Don’t lose hours looking for that lost shoe – create a designated spot for your things.
A tidy home equals a calmer mind. Simple as that.
The Power of Saying ‘No’: Less is More, Mama
| “You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, unapologetically—to say ‘no’ to other things.” – Stephen R. Covey |
Moms, we are good at saying “yes.” The truth is, though, one of the best ways to protect your peace is to learn how to say “no.” It doesn’t make you selfish; it makes you sane.
What you can do
- Saying no to extra tasks and extra people that take you away from what you need to do.
- Even if it’s only 30 minutes a day: Guard your ‘me time’ like it’s gold (when you have it, make use).
- The next time someone asks, you practice saying ‘no’ without feeling guilty — it’s not rude, we’re just looking out for ourselves.
When you say no, you’re saying no to chaos and choosing your peace of mind.
Unplug to Recharge: The Magic of a Digital Detox
| “Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” – Anne Lamott |
Social media and never-ending texts will suck your energy dry. Allow yourself to take a pause and a break from the digital world. It will thank your mind, and yours, for doing this. When you say no, you’re saying no to chaos and choosing your peace of mind.
What you can do
- While you’re spending time with your kids, leave your phone behind in the other room.
- Have a “phone free time” set, like dinner or before bedtime.
- Install apps that restrict screen time so you’re not always distracted.
Unplugging resets your mind and that is a key ingredient to finding peace of mind.
Pause, Breathe, and Be Present: Finding Joy in the Chaos
| “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” – Buddha |
It’s hard to survive in the craziness and get lost in what’s coming next. Real peace of mind is being present. Let go of what’s next and soak in this moment with your kids.
What you can do
- Whenever you are overwhelmed practice mindful breathing (breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, breathe out for 4 seconds).
- When things get hectic, take a 5 minute break, just to center yourself.
- Try to concentrate with your kids during your playtime.
It encourages you to let go of stress and allows more calm into your life.
Reconnecting with Nature: Step Outside for Peace
| “Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.” – Albert Einstein |
Let’s be honest: you just need to get out of the house sometimes! Nature calms the nerves in you. It’s time to grab the kiddos, step outside and, if you can, take a deep breath. If you’re looking for the best places to see cherry blossoms in the USA, check out my guide here: Where to Watch Cherry Blossoms in the USA
What you can do
- Do something, even if it’s just a 10 minute walk, around your block.
- If you’re lucky enough to live close to a park or if you just want to spend some time playing outdoors with the kids – head there!
- Spend a few quiet moments in your backyard (and bring a cup of coffee if you wish).
Nature is a natural reset button for your peace of mind.
Gratitude in Action: Turning Your Attention to the Good Stuff
| “Gratitude turns what we have into enough.” – Aesop |
In the thick of mom life, it’s all too easy to get lost in what isn’t the right. Taking a moment each day to recognize what’s going well can change your state, and help you to feel at peace.
What you can do
- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for each day—start a gratitude journal!
- Even if it’s something small, take time to share a moment of gratitude with your kids at bedtime.
- Enjoy the little victories: When everyone is finally fed and happy!
Nurturing peace of mind is as simple as being grateful.
Setting Boundaries: Protect Your Peace From Everyone Else’s Demands
| “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” – Brené Brown |
Saying yes to everybody else’s needs is easy. But here’s the truth: You can’t pour from an empty cup. Define boundaries to protect your peace and stop apologizing for it.
Setting boundaries isn’t just about saying “no”—it’s about clear communication. Expressing your needs helps others respect your space. Struggling with this? Check out my guide on Communication and Feedback for practical tips!
What you can do
- Be sure you are very clear about your personal time, whether it’s for self-care or time to yourself.
- Know when to say “no” and don’t overextend yourself.
- Set aside some scheduled “me time, even if it is an hour of bubble bath or a book.
Different words, but the meaning is the same—your peace is behind boundaries.
Self-Care Isn’t Selfish: Little Rituals to Recharge Your Spirit
| “Almost everything will fall into place if you nourish your body, mind, and spirit.” – Oprah Winfrey |
The concept of self-care isn’t a trendy hashtag; it’s good for your mental health. Don’t feel bad that you took some time for yourself. You deserve it.
If you’re looking for ideas on how to incorporate self-care group activities into your routine, check out my article on Self-Care Group Activities for fun, bonding, and relaxing activities you can do with other moms.
What you can do
- Make sure to schedule “me time” each week (at least 15 minutes!).
- Have little rituals: a bath, a good book, your favorite podcast.
- Do something that makes you feel like a human being (paint, dance, bake, whatever blisses your heart).
In other words, self-care is the fuel to your survival.
Worry Less, Write More: A Simple List for Letting Your Thoughts Go
| “You can’t always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.” – Wayne Dyer |
Writing is a really good way to declutter your mind and release your worries. Keeping a journal helps you sort through the things that are causing stress so you can feel better. Writing things down, managing time, and prioritizing tasks reduce stress and bring peace of mind.
What you can do
- Start writing down all the things that are stressing you out.
- Put big tasks into smaller steps, which makes them easier to work with.
- Turn your journal into an anxiety release space.
Keeping a journal will allow you to process thoughts, and clear your mind for peace.
Own Your Stress: Look for the Triggers and find Peace
| “Awareness is the greatest agent for change.” – Eckhart Tolle |
First off, it starts with knowing what it is that’s making you upset. When you know your triggers, you have a better chance to handle them.
What you can do
- Track what leads to your stress: family gatherings, messes and work.
- Whenever possible, make efforts to cut or eliminate these triggers.
- Real time stress management: deep breaths, quick break, some quiet time.
When you are aware of what is going on, you can reclaim control and in turn your peace.
Rediscover Yourself: Hobbies that Fill You Up
| “Hobbies are great distractions from the worries and troubles that plague daily living.” – Bill Malone |
Losing yourself in everyday life is easy. Bring back activities that make you feel like YOU. Recharging and finding peace is very good with hobbies. Taking time for hobbies brings peace of mind, and some can even make money. Check out my article on 51 Surprising Hobbies That Can Actually Make Money for ideas to earn while doing what you love.
What you can do
- Find a hobby you love, like reading, painting, dancing around your kitchen.
- Something new will spark refreshment and creativity.
- Find a group or class in your locality and get to meet people who share similar interests.
These are your ‘me time’ when you reset and get your inner peace.
Perfectly Imperfect: The Pressure to Be ‘Super Mom’ Let’s Go
| “No one is perfect – that’s why pencils have erasers.” – Wolfgang Riebe |
Forget the “perfect mom” myth. You’re trying, and you’re doing the best you can. Learn to love your imperfections—they’re what make you you and make you real and relatable. Embrace mistakes with a growth mindset—where every challenge is an opportunity to grow. Check out the Growth Mindset Chart article to learn how to shift from a fixed mindset to one that embraces growth.
What you can do
- Perfectionism… it is not your job to do it all.
- “Take a shower today is a win, celebrate!”
- No matter what goes on, know that you’re enough.
Once you stop striving for perfect, you have space for peace of mind.
End Your Day Right: Reflect on the Good Stuff
| “Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” – Charles Dickens |
Starting with a positive reflection means one has a peaceful night. Calming your mind before bed is end your day with gratitude.
What you can do
- Think about your best part of the day perhaps even something small like a hug from your kid.
- Put it in a gratitude journal and write it down.
- Have a moment of stillness before restful sleep.
A peaceful heart at the end of your day can bring for you a peaceful night.
Wrapping Up
It’s not a far off dream, Mama, peace of mind. It’s right within your reach. So, you’ll keep more peace in your life by decluttering, setting boundaries, carving time out for yourself and practicing gratitude. Perfection is not the point — it is about going from zero to small changes that grow. It feels good to know you’ve got this, and it’s worth every little effort to your peace of mind.
What is one small thing you do every day that adds more peace into your life? Let’s inspire each other in the comments!